Index
Adler, Tamar 120, 128, 150, 154
agape 2, 49–50, 55–57, 60–61, 66, 123–124
Anderson, Wes 95
anticipation 10
apologies
recognition of wrongdoing 69–74, 76
Aristophanes 2, 48, 50, 56–58, 66
Aristotle 9, 34, 36, 93, 96, 133, 143
Attenborough, Richard 111
Aurelius, Marcus 90
Bambara, Toni Cade 127
Benedict XVI, Pope 71
Black, Max 54
Blake, William 113
Browning, Elizabeth Barrett 50–52, 63–64
Bunting, Julie 120
Byrne, Rhonda 97
Campion, Jane 61
Carlsmith, James Merrill 92, 143
Chesterton, Gilbert K. 69, 139
choices
Coen Brothers 117
cognitive dissonance 92
Cope, Wendy 47
Cummings, E. E. 105, 120, 126, 145, 149, 153
Darabont, Frank 24–25, 119, 147
Da Vinci, Leonardo 7
Descartes, René 62–63, 66, 138
Dickinson, Emily 1, 9–10, 14–15, 17, 30, 32–33, 39, 60, 119, 121, 129–132, 134, 138, 147, 150–151
disappointment 3, 35, 108–110, 127
Donne, John 104
Duns Scotus (Duns, John) 54
Einstein, Albert 29
Eliot, T. S. 108
eros 2, 48–51, 56–57, 60–61, 66, 124
forgiveness 1, 70, 77, 79–80, 119, 124
Forth, Joseph 120
Freeman, Morgan 25
Freud, Sigmund 62
Gandhi, Mahatma 95
García Márquez, Gabriel 58, 127, 138
Gibran, Kahlil 35, 59, 124, 133
Gosling, Ryan 48
haecceity 54
hope
shameful 12, 19–21, 38–39, 121
hopefulness 2, 23–24, 93, 121, 125
Intuitive Eating 116, 120, 128, 146
James, William 97, 99–100, 120, 144, 148–149
Jones, Isham 58
Juste, Carsten 71
Kant, Immanuel 29, 78, 94, 141, 143
Knausgård, Karl Ove 112
Kubrick, Stanley 63
Kurosawa, Akira 119–120, 148–149
La Fontaine, Jean de 85–86, 142
Leibniz, Gottfried Wilhelm 53–54
Lewis, C. S. 111
life
worthwhile 30–34, 37, 41, 43, 99, 107, 122
Lincoln, Abraham 97
Louis XV 37
love
constancy 2, 45–48, 51–52, 54–57, 59
cynical models 2, 50, 61–67, 123–124
love for love’s sake model 62–64
neurobiological model 50, 62, 64–66
pangs of — lost 51, 59–61, 63–65, 67
reflectively endorsable models 48–61, 66, 123–124
Maimonides 78
Materazzi, Marco 3, 73, 81, 125
McEwan, Ian 119
Mellor, Hugh 109
mental imaging 7–11, 15–17, 19–21, 23, 25, 30, 121
Milne, A. A. 10
Mother Teresa 96
Newsom, Joanna 95
Nicholson, Julie 80
Nicholson, William 111
Niebuhr, Reinhold 1
Pakula, Alan J. 72
Pascal, Blaise 63, 90–93, 115, 125–126, 139, 143
Pavlov, Ivan 62
Perry, Andre M. 125
pretense 90–93, 97–98, 114–115
regret 3, 8, 71–74, 108–110, 120, 127
religious belief 29–30, 90–93, 97–100, 115, 122, 125–128
Rossetti, Christina 40, 57, 123, 134, 151–152
Rundell, Joseph Benjamin 85–86, 142
Schadenfreude 20
Schwadron, Hans 71
Seabright, Paul 95
self-confidence 25
self-deception 3, 25, 86, 93, 125
self-expression 110–112, 116, 127
self-respect 25
Seneca 38
Shakespeare, William 41–42, 46, 56, 122, 135
Silverstein, Shel 59
Singer, Peter 94
St. Matthew 12, 14, 25, 130–131
St. Paul 2, 48–50, 55, 117, 136
Styron, William 72
Sunshine, Linda 41
taste change, willful 88, 90–93, 125
Vonnegut, Kurt 91
Wallace, David Foster 95
wanting to be
wanting to believe 87–88, 90–93, 97–100
Watts, George Frederic 121, 150
Whitman, Walt 99
wishful thinking 3, 15–16, 38, 87–88, 92–93, 125
Wodehouse, P. G. 69–70, 80, 82, 124, 139, 141
Wojtyla, Karol (Pope John Paul II) 55–56
Wolfe, Thomas 112